Okay, so you’ve met a great girl and you are starting to date. Congrats!
At this point in the dating process, it doesn’t matter so much if you got the date after working up the courage to ask her out,
whether it was a setup by friends or whether you just got “lucky” and she agreed to go out with you. What DOES matter is if you commit one or more of the following dating mistakes that men make with women. If you do make these mistakes, your new “relationship” may justbe another disastrous dating experience with you left on your own once again.
Mistake #1 – Being Too Nice You’ll often hear women talking about how their looking for a “nice” guy to date and build a relationship with. Yet, most guys completely misunderstand what a woman is saying when she says “nice guy.” They mistakenly assume that if a woman is looking for a nice guy, then all they need to do to be successful is be REALLY, REALLY nice to her and that will make her like him a whole lot more than other guys. However, that isn’t what women are looking for and that isn’t what women mean by “nice.” After a couple of experiences being REALLY, REALLY nice to women and getting rejected each time, some guys start to think that women must want bad boys or jerks and that the whole “nice guy” thing is a huge, fat lie!
Here’s the thing… It’s not a lie. Women’s desire for a nice guy is TRUE, but there is a huge difference between a manly, nice guy who guides a woman through a natural, s*xual courtship (of which I call The Flow) and a nice guy who is a complete pushover, behaves like he’s not even interested in s*x and waits for the woman to make it really obvious that she wants something “more than friends” before he makes a move. Sure, initially some women can enjoy having a pushover nice guy that she can lead around by his nose (or other parts of his body further to the south) and get him to do whatever she wants. Yet, in reality, a woman want a man who will treat her welland with respect and most importantly, respect himself enough to not allow her to behave in a disrespectful manner towards him.
She wants that guy who truly is a powerful man that she can lean on, trust, respect and lust after.
She wants to be the one who is always on her toes trying to make sure that she doesn’t lose him. It’s not supposed to be the other way around. It is the you (the man) who is supposed to be “in charge” of a male/ female relationship. You are a good guy, but you are ALSO a confident, masculine man…and that is exactly what she’s talking about when she says she wants a “nice guy.” If you don’t understand that, then you are simply reading into the word “nice” too literally. Being a “nice guy” is not about being a super nice guy; it’s about being the complete package (you’ll learn how to be the “complete package” when you invest in our programs and get the education you need about women, dating, relationships, attraction and being a real man), while ALSO being a good guy. Mistake #2 – Constantly Seeking Her Approval Of course when you’re dating a woman, you will occasionally want to get her input on things you do as a couple but, in general, it’s up to the man to steer the dates and the relationship – not the woman. However, too many insecure guys will ask their lady’s “permission” on virtually everything. He’ll ask her where they should go out to dinner, what movie they should see, whether or not she likes what he’s wearing, how his apartment looks, how often they should see each other and so on. In short, he acts as if she’s his mother and he is constantly seeking her approval. Wrong!
Mistake #3 – Trying to Buy Her Affection Sure, occasionally during your long-term relationship you might want to give her a gift on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and so forth.
However, if you’re always buying her laugh
At this point in the dating process, it doesn’t matter so much if you got the date after working up the courage to ask her out,
whether it was a setup by friends or whether you just got “lucky” and she agreed to go out with you. What DOES matter is if you commit one or more of the following dating mistakes that men make with women. If you do make these mistakes, your new “relationship” may justbe another disastrous dating experience with you left on your own once again.
Mistake #1 – Being Too Nice You’ll often hear women talking about how their looking for a “nice” guy to date and build a relationship with. Yet, most guys completely misunderstand what a woman is saying when she says “nice guy.” They mistakenly assume that if a woman is looking for a nice guy, then all they need to do to be successful is be REALLY, REALLY nice to her and that will make her like him a whole lot more than other guys. However, that isn’t what women are looking for and that isn’t what women mean by “nice.” After a couple of experiences being REALLY, REALLY nice to women and getting rejected each time, some guys start to think that women must want bad boys or jerks and that the whole “nice guy” thing is a huge, fat lie!
Here’s the thing… It’s not a lie. Women’s desire for a nice guy is TRUE, but there is a huge difference between a manly, nice guy who guides a woman through a natural, s*xual courtship (of which I call The Flow) and a nice guy who is a complete pushover, behaves like he’s not even interested in s*x and waits for the woman to make it really obvious that she wants something “more than friends” before he makes a move. Sure, initially some women can enjoy having a pushover nice guy that she can lead around by his nose (or other parts of his body further to the south) and get him to do whatever she wants. Yet, in reality, a woman want a man who will treat her welland with respect and most importantly, respect himself enough to not allow her to behave in a disrespectful manner towards him.
She wants that guy who truly is a powerful man that she can lean on, trust, respect and lust after.
She wants to be the one who is always on her toes trying to make sure that she doesn’t lose him. It’s not supposed to be the other way around. It is the you (the man) who is supposed to be “in charge” of a male/ female relationship. You are a good guy, but you are ALSO a confident, masculine man…and that is exactly what she’s talking about when she says she wants a “nice guy.” If you don’t understand that, then you are simply reading into the word “nice” too literally. Being a “nice guy” is not about being a super nice guy; it’s about being the complete package (you’ll learn how to be the “complete package” when you invest in our programs and get the education you need about women, dating, relationships, attraction and being a real man), while ALSO being a good guy. Mistake #2 – Constantly Seeking Her Approval Of course when you’re dating a woman, you will occasionally want to get her input on things you do as a couple but, in general, it’s up to the man to steer the dates and the relationship – not the woman. However, too many insecure guys will ask their lady’s “permission” on virtually everything. He’ll ask her where they should go out to dinner, what movie they should see, whether or not she likes what he’s wearing, how his apartment looks, how often they should see each other and so on. In short, he acts as if she’s his mother and he is constantly seeking her approval. Wrong!
Mistake #3 – Trying to Buy Her Affection Sure, occasionally during your long-term relationship you might want to give her a gift on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and so forth.
However, if you’re always buying her laugh
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